Day After Mojitos

Congrats! We made it through our first evening of Manifesting Mr. Right...and what a night! We Manifested Mr. Right over Mojitos. Sorry for those of you who missed it---it was a great time and we did a lot of work in 3 hours--you won't believe how amazing the energy was. I lit a candle for each of us, including all of you who could not attend...you were held in the energy so that you can do this work with us even though you were not there. To keep you all in the loop, here is the scoop:

We did some work and left with some homework last night:

A. Take time to write a list of qualities you want in a man. (yes we all may have done this before; however, things change over time and it is to get you refreshed back in the game so to speak.) Once you have that list now---narrow that list down to The TOP 5 qualities that you can not live without. The first list you will keep and hold that as your check off list when you start dating. The book says after 5-6 dates you will be able to know if that person meets your list and hey if you listen to your intuition you may be able to do that sooner! So take time with this---we did!

B. Why haven't I found him exercise? Write a list of the reasons you feel/believe you have not found your man? Be as honest with this list---we don't have time to lie to one another or ourselves...we want to meet our mr. right so hey---it is your choice to be open and honest with yourself. By the way, I encourage all of you who attended last night to do this again with perhaps a little more clarity with out the influence of mojitos! hahaha

Really do this list...it could encompass any of the following: I never meet Mr. Right. There is no such thing as Mr. Right. I am not pretty enough. I need to lose weight. All men are jerks. Etc. It could be anything.

The author of the book suggests that we go back over that list and see if the "beliefs" (that is what they are) fall into 1 or more of the following categories: About Ourself (O), About Men (M), About Love (L). For example: I never meet Mr. Right. (O); There is no such thing as Mr. Right. (O, M, L); I am not pretty enough. (O) I need to lose weight. (O), All men are jerks. (M, L)

This list is imperative for you to discover where your beliefs lie. The book states: If you find a lot of (O's) you will find that you need to work on your self esteem. A great exercise, suggested by author of the book (which is quite similar to the homework I often give my clients--you all know what I mean), is to pick one good feature/quality about yourself and explain why you feel that way and it feels to discover that. Do this for 21 days...develop a new habit of loving you! If you don't love everything about you; no one else could or would. If you find a lot of (M's) then you need to look at your beliefs about men and your thoughts. Listen to the words you use in conversation even if they are used just in gest. It impacts you more than you know. Notice your thoughts/beliefs and be willing to change them. If you find a lot of (L's) you need have a defeated sense of love and have been soured on the possibility. Over the next 21 days, observe people and really notice couples and see the possibility of love. (Last night on my drive over I saw a couple in the parking lot where the woman ran up to the man and he picked her up and carried her lovingly over the car--it was like that hadn't seen each other in months--when in fact it may have simply been a day...but the love was really there..that is what I want and what I believe is possible...what about you?)

C. Create a positive affirmation about what you want in a relationship. Spend some real time feeling it and experiencing it. The book suggests starting with: With the right man, I feel..... You get to fill in the rest. My example would be: With the right man, I feel safe, loved and at peace.

This is a tough one to visualize as many of us are blocked from allowing us to experience what that would be like because we have been hurt...but I can tell you that if I can do it...so could you!

D. We sat down together and held each other's intentions. We sat in a circle and held hands and one by one we each created our intention. The first person said their intention, we repeated it, closed our eyes and held that intention for them and then shared our experience with each other...then did the next person. The one word trap I did hear from people was the following words "I am going to..." if that is you...change it to I will/I have, etc. For example: mine was I have a healthy, vibrant, loving relationship with my husband. It felt good!

E. Each weekend we have to go out.  We made it a pact to each week all, some or a few of us to get together and go out together. That way we are making new friends, never have to go out and practice alone and just have fun while working it! hahaha (We can all be everywhere and we are not all available--but we can figure it out together...it is key to attend events so we can connect with eachother. Someone will through out there each week what plans they have about Singles events or whatever they may be interested in doing---so each person can choose to go. Remember,  we are not alone in this!!

F. Reconnect and Empower our Intention.  I know in my first email I said our getting together at someone's house is a first and probably last get together at someone's home, but I'd like to propose that we make it a point to get together as a group at someone's home at least once every 2-3 weeks to reconnect briefly, reenergize our intention and remember the support we have in this process. Or as one of my friends likes to call it---pre-gaming...but not in the drinking way...in the connection way. Then we go out together afterward.

G. Practice Flirting and Increase Feminine Allure. Oh ya I almost forgot two other topics: we learned that I do not know how to flirt--but I am going to change that over the next two weeks and I will begin to say I do know how to flirt!!   Flirting is key and we really don't all know how to do it--except one of us particularly last night, right?  And the other thing we learned is how to increase our feminine allure. This book has some great ideas!!