Well from what we discovered last weekend, I have not been very good at flirting. I was not practiced because quite frankly I didn't know how. I felt a little oblivious. It is really funny when I think about it. When I look over my life, I realized I used to be such a good flirt, but then out of nowhere it disappeared; how does that happen? Does that have to do with being in long term relationships Do we forget how to flirt? Is flirting different when you are involved with someone? I know that the men I date know I am interested in them, but is it because I am more comfortable because I know they are interested in me too? Is it fear? What is the worst that can happen if you flirt with someone? What is the worst that can happen when you don't flirt? These and many other questions have been popping in my head.
So the other night I did practice when I was out with the girls: I flirted with two guys--it worked or so I think...because one kept looking at me...the other one was wrapped in the Yankee game--the problem was I wasn't interested in the one that kept looking...and well I guess that was made clear because he didn't approach us, a group of newbies...I really feel like that is what we looked like, of course no one knew but us. Then yesterday, I stopped to get gas..and there was a cute guy by his car and we did a little smile and it felt like flirting, but was it? Or what about the flirt when you are both at the traffic light and look at each other and hold the gaze for a couple of moments, smile, look away and then the light is green and he is gone? Is that flirting? Is that successful? What determines success if you are in your car and in a hurry? Or what is you get the guy to look back, but you are not interested? Hmm...I am confused...how will I know?
I have been pondering this quite a bit the last few days. The other night when we practiced--even with girlfriends I think I failed? Well---yes, I believe Mary would agree with that statement! So I thought why is it so difficult to do what used to come naturally. And the answer I came up with is this: It feels a little silly to practice. I mean if you are not interested in someone, what is the point? I know the point is to practice, but I feel silly. So how does one overcome this silliness? I mean I am more than ready to flirt with someone cute, but then I realize I feel a little fear of rejection there or hey it may come off wrong. Hence it is a circular thought I have to just go back to practice. I need practice. I need pointers. I need help. Anyone have any suggestions on how to practice without getting cold feet?
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